Tuesday, October 21, 2025

By no means Take Sweet from Strangers

I grew up within the technology of latchkey children: Each dad and mom labored; you got here residence from faculty, mounted your self a fast chunk, then ran off to the playground for some stick- or b-ball. We weren’t wildly overscheduled; we didn’t have 20 hours per week of faculty occasions, after-school actions, and tasks.  We had been (largely) on our personal.

This led to a technology of oldsters who acknowledged the dangers all this unsupervised play created. The outcomes had been three easy guidelines that each child who grew up within the Sixties, 70s, and even 80s needed to be taught:

1. Make sure that your dad and mom knew the place you had been going to be after faculty;

2. Be residence for dinner (arms washed and on the desk) by 6pm;

3. By no means take sweet from strangers.1

That was it!

Each different rule was a variation on this theme. Whether or not you had a sleepover at Brian’s home or had been enjoying hoops with Marc, Chuck, and Ritchie, you needed to depart a notice or a message at residence and/or your dad and mom’ office as to what you had been doing that day. Dinner was the identical time on daily basis, and for those who had been late, there was gonna be hell to pay for it.

Know-how has rendered the principles 1 and a couple of out of date: Mother and father know precisely the place their children are to inside just a few toes, courtesy of the monitoring apps on their telephones. Texting lets them know exactly when they’re coming residence. However that third rule…

At this time, I need to talk about why it is best to by no means take sweet from strangers. It was true once I was 12 years outdated, growing a good pull-up soar shot and learning for my bar mitzvah. It’s true right this moment, maybe extra so. It’s true, even if you’re an grownup, married with two children, a canine, and a mortgage.

It’s so apparent and ingrained – at the least to my technology – that it’s simple to miss the simplicity and brilliance of this idea.

Simply as your mom used to inform you to not take sweet from strangers, so goes it with taking funding recommendation from strangers on TV, in print, weblogs, and most particularly social media.

When a stranger gives you one thing totally free, it ought to instantly make you ask just a few questions: Who’re they? What do they need? Have they got your finest pursuits at coronary heart? What’s in it for them? All the time ask your self: What are these individuals promoting?

Is it a e-newsletter? Some wacky buying and selling scheme or crypto rip-off claiming it’s gonna make you thousands and thousands? “Simply make 1% per day to show $100 into thousands and thousands” kind nonsense.

On the very least, they’re asking in your time and a focus, and that has super worth to you as a person. Collectively, it’s value billions of {dollars} to large tech and media.

I commit at the least 10 chapters in “How To not Make investments” discussing these actual subjects as a result of its that necessary. See:

Who do you take heed to?
Prediction, Inc.?
Forecasting Chaos
What are they promoting?
24/7 Monetary Recommendation
Tiktokinvestors
Gell-Mann Amnesia
Sign-to-Noise Ratio
Lose the Information
Use the Information: Reengineer Your Media Eating regimen

Earlier than you settle for the investing recommendation from a random stranger, ask your self if they’re involved together with your comfy retirement, or shopping for a brand new home, paying in your children school. In the event that they don’t know your zip code or tax bracket, how on earth is their recommendation geared to your circumstances?

In fact it isn’t. It’s promoting one thingbe it commercials, funding merchandise, newsletters, or God is aware of what else.

Most of what you see, hear, and skim was not written with you in thoughts. It was created to promote a product. (This weblog put up, for example, is exhorting you to purchase my guide). These gross sales pitches aren’t nefarious, however they’ve grow to be so ubiquitous that we frequently overlook them.

It’s not life like to recommend individuals tune every thing out. Nonetheless, I’m making three solutions for all shoppers of monetary content material:

-Perceive what media you’re consuming;

-Make clever, well-informed selections;

-Prioritize high quality over amount.

I’m not suggesting you grow to be a curmudgeon, however slightly, be rather less gullible and naïve. After I began out within the finance business, I believed each line that got here my means from each salesman, any fund supervisor, and quarterly calls stuffed with nonsense. I used to be a simple mark for all smooth-talking bullshit artists.

Because of this my Mother was proper to warn me to not take sweet from strangers. Her recommendation applies equally to taking funding recommendation from individuals you don’t know and whose course of, observe document, and temperament you’re unfamiliar with. Have they been extra proper than mistaken? Lived by just a few cycles? Are they worthy of your time and a focus?

It took a while and a few costly losses earlier than I figured that out.

Taking funding recommendation from individuals you have no idea within the media in all of its varieties isn’t any completely different than taking sweet from strangers.

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1. There’s a for much longer story from 1874 about Charley Ross, the primary lacking baby to make nationwide headlines. It (after all) concerned taking sweet from strangers. A full century earlier than my technology, and so was not precisely a part of the Zeitgeist in 1974. If you wish to be taught extra about it, see “The Kidnapping of Little Charley Ross,” Library of Congress, April 23, 2019.

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